My parents are here...living with me in our house...not sure when they will head back to Beirut. Not the point..the point is that I realise that they really do need me around. Not only are they getting older...bas I also think that they are realising that bringing up their daughter to be a bit too independent is not quite as good idea as they thought. I mean don't get me wrong, my parents are VERY open-minded people, they have given my freedom because they trust me. The issue has come up now, because one of my friends has asked me to stay with her while her parents are away, because she is scared of being home alone at night. So my parents call me yesterday, and ask if I am doing something that I don't want them to know about!!!!! I was in such shock...inno what could I be doing that would be so bad that I couldn't do from home???? Selling drugs, cleaning people's houses, prostitution!!!!! I seriously could not believe it.
But I think know what it is all about, its that they miss me, that they want me around, but to come up with this scenario...I mean come on. They could just say Lulwa we miss you...I would get that...bas all this drama-which friends of mine seem to think runs in the family (I know they are really funny)-their was no reason for it.
Or...lets think like them, maybe they felt inno this was the only way to get to me. To make me understand, and that is the truly sad thought. Why should my parents have to go to such extremes to make me feel with them? Ask any of my friends, I am the sort who over talks, over deals, so it should be quite easy for my own parents to come up to me and talk to me. But maybe its like what a friend once told me, inno people like me who talk so much end up being unable to listen to anyone.
10 September 2006
04 September 2006
Woman talk
Two nights ago I had one of the most interesting nights here in Amman, I sat with two female friends of mine for the whole day-watching movies, eating and drinking-and of course TALKING!!!! We talked about everything, from politics, to having soul, and the existence of God. But of course at some point it turned to MEN-especially when i took out the ever so famous book: He's Just Not that Into You.
I was telling them about what my dad told me, its a statement that has truly terrified me. He told me that most if not all the men that I know-Arab men-are not as open minded as I might like to think. He went on to say that Lulwa, you have to realise that even though they all studied abroad, and have gone out with women from different cultures, and have friends from different countries, they still see a woman as their property. They will marry the virgin, they will marry the woman who will most likely sit at home. I didn't believe him, I couldn't believe him!!!! I am a feminist I couldn't imagine that the men who I am friends with are actually exactly like their fathers and forefathers.
So I did an experiment, I started to talk to my male friends, ask them questions without being over obvious. I asked them that if they would allow their sisters to have their boyfriends over like they were allowed to have their girlfriends over? I asked them if they would happily stay home and take care of the kids, if their wives decided to stay at work? So the answer to the first question, was the I got eyebrows raised! So I kind of didn't press the topic.
The second question got the discussion going, la2no they were willing to talk about it. Some said inno they would both work, others-with a little smirk-stated that they wouldn't mind staying home if she made more money. But there were a few who stated: that kids need their mothers more then their fathers, and as such the mother should stay home. The look of horror on my face...yes you can imagine!
So in conclusion-which I am sure very few of you men and maybe even some women will not agree with-the most open-minded of men in the Arab world-and maybe internationally-are still Chauvinist gits...who want to own their woman!
I was telling them about what my dad told me, its a statement that has truly terrified me. He told me that most if not all the men that I know-Arab men-are not as open minded as I might like to think. He went on to say that Lulwa, you have to realise that even though they all studied abroad, and have gone out with women from different cultures, and have friends from different countries, they still see a woman as their property. They will marry the virgin, they will marry the woman who will most likely sit at home. I didn't believe him, I couldn't believe him!!!! I am a feminist I couldn't imagine that the men who I am friends with are actually exactly like their fathers and forefathers.
So I did an experiment, I started to talk to my male friends, ask them questions without being over obvious. I asked them that if they would allow their sisters to have their boyfriends over like they were allowed to have their girlfriends over? I asked them if they would happily stay home and take care of the kids, if their wives decided to stay at work? So the answer to the first question, was the I got eyebrows raised! So I kind of didn't press the topic.
The second question got the discussion going, la2no they were willing to talk about it. Some said inno they would both work, others-with a little smirk-stated that they wouldn't mind staying home if she made more money. But there were a few who stated: that kids need their mothers more then their fathers, and as such the mother should stay home. The look of horror on my face...yes you can imagine!
So in conclusion-which I am sure very few of you men and maybe even some women will not agree with-the most open-minded of men in the Arab world-and maybe internationally-are still Chauvinist gits...who want to own their woman!
It's Been Emotional.
My friend last night told me to be selfish...I kind of didn't get it...any pointers...he didn't mean it about money or something like that...I think he meant-well not quite sure...fa lets see if any of you can give me a hint!
To Listen or not to Listen
It is sad when one has to say bye to a stage of ones life. Going to university, leaving university, starting a job, leaving a job...so on so forth...you get my drift. Bas I think one of the saddest things is losing a friend, well not so much losing bas more deciding that you can no longer be friends with each other.
I would like to make a note here, this is NOT a personal entry, I am not talking about any friend in particular in MY life, I am just considering something.
So back to the point I was making, is that there are friends you have that at some point you realise-no this not working. I had friends of mine from high school who after the first three months at university I was no longer able to communicate with them, or them with me. We just had grown apart. Natural...and as thus not so upsetting. But I think when it is quite upsetting is when you just don't know why...bas you no longer like someone. You still love them-as a friend or as a lover-bas you just don't LIKE them. I used to hear that all the time in movies and what not and never really understood it. But it makes sense...it really does. You can love someone and love em deeply..bas just not like em very much. They are either to loud, or to quite, to open or emotionally constipated. Whatever the reason, you just don't want them part of your life anymore, and I think that is one of the saddest changes that happens in ones life. But also one of the healthest!
I would like to make a note here, this is NOT a personal entry, I am not talking about any friend in particular in MY life, I am just considering something.
So back to the point I was making, is that there are friends you have that at some point you realise-no this not working. I had friends of mine from high school who after the first three months at university I was no longer able to communicate with them, or them with me. We just had grown apart. Natural...and as thus not so upsetting. But I think when it is quite upsetting is when you just don't know why...bas you no longer like someone. You still love them-as a friend or as a lover-bas you just don't LIKE them. I used to hear that all the time in movies and what not and never really understood it. But it makes sense...it really does. You can love someone and love em deeply..bas just not like em very much. They are either to loud, or to quite, to open or emotionally constipated. Whatever the reason, you just don't want them part of your life anymore, and I think that is one of the saddest changes that happens in ones life. But also one of the healthest!
The Crocodile Hunter
Stephen Robert "Steve" Irwin
(22 February 1962 – 4 September 2006)
-Was an Australian environmentalist and television personality. He was best known for the television program The Crocodile Hunter, an unconventional wildlife documentary series which he hosted with his wife Terri Irwin. Irwin's personality and outrageous antics in the series made him an international celebrity. He also owned and operated the Australia Zoo at Beerwah in Queensland.
Death
In the early afternoon of 4 September 2006, Irwin was fatally stung in the chest by a stingray barb off the Great Barrier Reef in Australia while filming an underwater documentary.
Shortly after 11:00 a.m. local time, Irwin was filming in the Low Isles near Port Douglas, north of Cairns, Queensland, Australia, where he was stung either through his heartor through the left side of his chest and suffered cardiac arrest. After he was stung, his crew called for medical help and the Queensland Rescue Helicopter responded, taking him to Cairns Base Hospital. However, Irwin was immediately pronounced dead at the scene. The Queensland Police Service notified his family and released a statement for the media concerning the event.
16 August 2006
Pictures
My parents have moved back to Amman...having to be forced out of Beirut...anyway I had put pictures of my friends on the fridge-am that sort of person-when the house was all mine...bas since they are back I decided to bring the pictures down...so I put some up on my mirror in my bathroom. Thought it was cute...and my mirror is huge fa doesn't really get in the way.
BUT....
I realised inno it is kind of strange...to be brushing my teeth, combing my hair, getting out of the shower and having my friends there WATCHING! I am sure we have all heard the myth that when camera's first came out-and in some cultures around the world-they believe that when you take a picture of someone you take a part of their soul...also in Harry Potter books the pictures move...fa the other day as I was coming out of the shower and wrapping myself in a towel I looked up and saw them all-looking at me...and it kind of freaked me out. What if their eyes looking out at me could transfer to the real person what they were seeing???? What if all them had just seen me NAKED! I was creaped out...and I still am...bas somehow I didn't take the pictures down...lol...think that this all part of my exhibitionist side of my personality...but think about it would it not be freaky to think that all the pictures of me out there in the world-stuck on my friends fridges...put in frames...could bring me the images of my friends. While they sat in their living rooms watching tv, cooking lunch...coming out of SHOWERS...it would be fun...like being a fly in their houses...aw even better like being an invisible woman able to travel around the world just by having my picture taken and stuck on someone's fridge, bathroom mirror.
BUT....
I realised inno it is kind of strange...to be brushing my teeth, combing my hair, getting out of the shower and having my friends there WATCHING! I am sure we have all heard the myth that when camera's first came out-and in some cultures around the world-they believe that when you take a picture of someone you take a part of their soul...also in Harry Potter books the pictures move...fa the other day as I was coming out of the shower and wrapping myself in a towel I looked up and saw them all-looking at me...and it kind of freaked me out. What if their eyes looking out at me could transfer to the real person what they were seeing???? What if all them had just seen me NAKED! I was creaped out...and I still am...bas somehow I didn't take the pictures down...lol...think that this all part of my exhibitionist side of my personality...but think about it would it not be freaky to think that all the pictures of me out there in the world-stuck on my friends fridges...put in frames...could bring me the images of my friends. While they sat in their living rooms watching tv, cooking lunch...coming out of SHOWERS...it would be fun...like being a fly in their houses...aw even better like being an invisible woman able to travel around the world just by having my picture taken and stuck on someone's fridge, bathroom mirror.
Ironic
We all know the song...isn't it IRONIC...well today I found something that could go brilliantly on the list...having an abundance of ciggies and no form of lightage for them!!!! I am frustrated with the fact that my parents smoke...yet I can't find a lighter/match/oven igniter...ANYTHING...to light my BLOODY FAGS!!!
As the magnet on my fridge states:
Give the Bitchy Nicotine Queen her damn Cigarettes!
As the magnet on my fridge states:
Give the Bitchy Nicotine Queen her damn Cigarettes!
12 August 2006
Just had to Post this...
As usual I am doing my usual reading of newpapers online...Guardian, AlQuds, and then Haaretz-for good measure-and I come across this article...Bleeding-heart ignoramuses
By Julie Burchill Not sure what I think of it...well I do know what I think of it...typical Israeli tripe...bas thought it would be interesting for people to read what this author said...the quote that most stands out: "That Israel is fighting the frontline war, on behalf of the freedom and civilization of all of us, against the very real evils of shari'a law never seems to occur to these bleeding-heart ignoramuses." She then goes on to say: "The conflict has sent this tendency into overdrive, with not just the usual Masochist Hacks For Mohammed such as Robert Fisk (beaten up by Islamists, says they were right to do it) and Yvonne Ridley (kidnapped by Islamists, then became one) getting their chadors in a twist about big swarthy men with tea-towels on their heads treating the West mean and keeping it - in their case at least - keen."
I don't know if one should laugh or cry when this read this. ENJOY!!!!!
By Julie Burchill Not sure what I think of it...well I do know what I think of it...typical Israeli tripe...bas thought it would be interesting for people to read what this author said...the quote that most stands out: "That Israel is fighting the frontline war, on behalf of the freedom and civilization of all of us, against the very real evils of shari'a law never seems to occur to these bleeding-heart ignoramuses." She then goes on to say: "The conflict has sent this tendency into overdrive, with not just the usual Masochist Hacks For Mohammed such as Robert Fisk (beaten up by Islamists, says they were right to do it) and Yvonne Ridley (kidnapped by Islamists, then became one) getting their chadors in a twist about big swarthy men with tea-towels on their heads treating the West mean and keeping it - in their case at least - keen."
I don't know if one should laugh or cry when this read this. ENJOY!!!!!
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