We have all had our hearts broken at some point in our lives. Here I am not talking about it in the abstract sense, I am talking about when you literally feel your heart going into two pieces-yeah ok it is abstract since the heart never actually gets broken. Heartbreak can be caused when someone you love tells you that they love you no longer, the man/woman you are with leaves you. Bas I have come to the conclusion that the worst heartbreak is when you realise that the person you love is no longer someone you can love. I mean when you realise that the person you have put all that time, energy and just pure belief in them, that they are just not who you thought he/she really is, that they don't deserve to have taken up so much of your time, energy and belief in them.I don't know if I am making sense, bas I realised yesterday while sitting in my garden having a drink and listening to my ipod, that from all the heartbreaks that I have experienced this is the worst. La2no it is not about that other person, it really is about you, you not being able to make good choices, you put all of YOURself into this relationship-whatever it is friendship aw more, and they not being worth it in the end. Maybe worth it is to strong an expression, or maybe it is the right one.
But I really think that this is the worst heartbreak ever, and it really is completely internal and self-induced, no one but me/I made it happen. When someone else tells you that they no longer love you, or want to be with you, then really it is out of your control, you can't convince them aw force them to be with you aw love you. Bas when it is your own heart that you can't control it makes the sourness you feel at the realisation that they are not the ONE so much harder to bear.
*hug*
ReplyDeleteI've had my heart broken a few times. As you get older, you realize that there's nothing you can do when your partner doesn't want to be with you. You have to accept it and focus on yourself and do what it takes to heal your heart.
ReplyDeleteIt's ok to cry and need time for yourself. It's also very ok to pamper yourself and do the little things in life that make you happy and send you on the road to recovery.
You're right, it really is all about yourself, you really can control your heartbreak because you can choose to either digging deeper into pain or you can choose to endure the pain and make yourself feel better
You are totally right Lulwa, same thing happens when you force some one who used to love you to stay in your life, you find out they don’t love you anymore, and they just have changed… and the thing that held your heart to them, was the love, which is no longer there.
ReplyDeleteGoing on with your life is something, but forgetting the whole story and get over it… is another impossible thing, yet, it is doable, but you will have to be acting on it 24/7 avoiding any silence or brain storm!
A heartbreak is the worst thing a person can come through.
Heal soon
Hope you'll get past this and find someone who deserves you. I can definitely relate to your situation and I've taken to forcing myself to be happy and to look towards the future. And deep down inside, I've been secretly praying for a little revenge and hoping they never finding someone that can even compare to me.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how much you put into to building a meaningful relationship, sometimes it's better to cut your losses and end it sooner than later. I am strong believer in fate and that everything happens for a reason. You can't make someone love you...no matter how much you love them. And just because you give them everything of yourself, they may not see it that way.
To have a broken heart is painful but what's worse is to let yourself sink deeper in that pain, you should know how to control it all and put a time limit to your pains, have enough strength to move on and believe that 'it's just not meant to be', so you have to let it go and concentrate on the future instead of living in the past...
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