I stated in a previous post what my new year resolutions are going to be, but lately-and especially after the email I got the other day, and this news feed on the Reuters website-I have been rethinking a few things about how I treat people and how I am treated back, but more to the point, how I treat the women in my life.
I decided that I seem to put less emphasis on the women in my life, my friends, my mother, my aunts, my female cousins. I don't give them extra time, or love, or affection, I seem to put most of that for my male friends. Or maybe more precisely on the people I see more often who happen to be my male friends.
There is something that has to be said about women and they way they treat each other sometimes, we see each other as threats, and I think that is why we end up being harsher, more critical of our female friends. Guess I won't speak in general. I know that I am harsher to my female friends, I expect less from them yet I judge them the most. Which is khara really, la2no they are stuck between a rock and a hard place. So the decision is for me to be more forgiving with my female friends, judge them less, be more supportive, more there I guess.
If we women are to be treated well in this world, then the first thing we have to do is to be better to each other, not to judge our sisters according to what they wear, how they walk, who they are friends with. Just start to accept each other as we are. I won't use words such as slut, bitch, the c-word, I won't look at the women around me and see how thin or fat they are, what designer they are wearing and which they are not. I will extend an olive branch to the women I no longer talk to, and I will pick up the phone more often to the women that I am talking to.
The resoltuion starts today, and I am going to give this till my birthday-mid march, fingers crossed it goes well.
I don't think you should differentiate between your male and female friends. Friends have nothing to do with their sex, race, religion or creed. They are your friends because they saw something in you that captured their heart, that made them care and that made them want to be with you all the time.
ReplyDeleteWhen you no longer show the traits that captured their hearts, they no longer care the way they did. Like a marriage or a relationship, friendships too need effort from both sides, sacrifices from both sides and a whole lot of consideration for the consequences that words and actions may cause.
Friendships are not something you dismiss because it's a guy or because she's a stylish woman. Don't neglect any of your friends for whatever reason. Only add to your list. If that means diversifiying and adding women, fine.
It's a good resolution to add to the list of people that you can care for. Just don't discriminate.
it is either people are not reading my posts very well, or my writting is shotie, the point was not that I will discriminate, or be sexist, nothing like that. The point is that I want to be better to the women in my life. This does not mean that I will mistreat the men, or loose them as friends, jsut that I want to see my females friends, and hang wtih them more.
ReplyDeleteI am not going to lose friends, I am not going to cut people out, nothing like that, I am not 10!
nothing less and nothing more!